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Sunday, February 24, 2013

Dining Room: Friends and Mentors for Your Marriage

imageI want to encourage our road trippers to not just let whatever happens happen at the dining room table. Be intentional about inviting over friends and mentors that will strengthen you and steer you right. A mentor is just someone you respect who’s a little further down the road than you are.

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Dining Room: Friends and Mentors for Your Marriage

By Evan Nehring

When we moved from the brown shack in Racine to the cozy blue house on Newman Road, our old dining table didn’t make the trip. Both table and chairs were falling apart so we gave Wade—then in 3rd grade—the satisfaction of busting it all up into manageable chunks for the garbage truck. Then it was time to shop!
 
We had a lead on a nice little dining room set on sale at Steinhafel’s in Kenosha. When we got there, though, the whole family was drawn to a big, square, barstool height table with eight chairs. It was delivered to Newman Road the next day and has been worked mercilessly every day since.
 

Friends and Mentors

The dining room is where we invite friends and family to join our family conversation. Colleen and I have been enriched and encouraged as we’ve talked about life with friends. Like the old King James Version says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…” (Proverbs 18:24).
 
A good invitation for dinner with friends is tough for anyone to turn down. And it’s sad when we decide to live our lives in isolation! They say that newly married couples tend to leave their old single friends behind. There may be reasons for that, but it’s worth the extra effort to reach out and stay connected beyond the wedding ceremony and the delivery room.
 
Dining Room: Friends and Mentors for Your Marriage
 
I want to encourage our road trippers to not just let whatever happens happen at the dining room table. Be intentional about inviting over friends and mentors that will strengthen you and steer you right. A mentor is just someone you respect who’s a little further down the road than you are.
 
Seek out godly role models who roll with a style that resonates with you. Have coffee. Let the kids play outside. Grill some brats. The friendships that happen by mistake might be a mistake. Be intentional!
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
 
Please find someone you can talk things through with. Find a couple to hang out with who have worked through the difficult times of marriage and still keep Jesus at the center. If you’re blessed to have parents that fit that description, wonderful! Make sure they’re in the mix. When it comes to family, though, some will be intimate friends and some won’t. It is what it is. No guilt. Be as close as you can. That’s it.
 
Colleen and I have searched out friends who have similar values and understand some of the things that are important to us. We’ve had friends with blended families, a love for Jesus and a heart for ministry. That gives huge areas of common ground for chatting. Sometimes the four of us have had a lighthearted exchange over peanuts at the Texas Roadhouse. Sometimes it’s a walk on the mountain where the guys and gals meander at a distance. Sometimes it’s Mexican at the dining room table.
 
Every marriage needs friends.
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