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Saturday, December 15, 2012

Dating Finale - Busting Nancy's Ghost


Dating Finale - Busting Nancy's Ghost
I guess if death therapy was good enough for Bob Wiley and Dr. Leo Marvin, it ended up being good enough for me. Jesus was with me through all of the drama.
 

I told her once on a porch swing that it hurt me to consider not loving her because I knew I would ultimately give my heart to another and forget her. I have.
 


Five great questions of life: Life * Love * Learning * Labor * Leadership

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Dating Finale - Busting Nancy's Ghost


By Evan Nehring


Nancy began to see Ronald, another young man at the church. Weeks turned into many months as I tried to move on. Then one morning, I woke up and I knew. I knew she had gotten engaged. Without getting out of bed, I called her and said, “You’ve gotten engaged haven’t you.”
 
Indeed. Ron had taken her that very weekend on some sort of hike overlooking a scenic vista and presented her with a ring. We hadn’t spoken for months, and that very morning…I knew.
 
Nancy’s ghost helped end several of my relationships. The grip on my emotions was too much. I finally called out to God and said, “I can’t do this anymore! I need you to put that part of me to death. I’ll start over fresh with you today, but I can’t resolve or understand anything that I’ve felt and experienced. I need to die to the old me.” It worked. Though we were never intimate and never married, my internal vow to Nancy was binding until I put the old me to death.
 
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. (Galatians 2:20, NIV)
 
By Chad Davis from MINNEAPOLIS, USA [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
 
I guess if death therapy was good enough for Bob Wiley and Dr. Leo Marvin, it ended up being good enough for me. Jesus was with me through all of the drama.
 
I told her once on a porch swing that it hurt me to consider not loving her because I knew I would ultimately give my heart to another and forget her. I have. The love I have found overwhelms me. I thank God for my family over and over again each week. It’s not on a thank you list, it just bubbles out.
 
I’ve been pretty low, but the crucified one has been lower. There’s life after death, even on this side of the grave. I needed the life-giving power of God to pull me out of my emotional slough. But before that moment and ever since, I have been determined for my love story to reflect God’s love story for his people.


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2 comments:

  1. Painful memories. I think some of your great songs came from that time like: I'm trusting You with my whole life, I'm trusting You. I love that song and the high falsetto notes you hit. My first love was the hardest one for me to let go of, even at age 13, it impacted me so much that it effected all my other relationships. I held on to hope that we'd marry someday. His words when we dated, "If I am your first love, will I be your last?" Too young to know what the future held but I fell hard. Many cries in bed and at camp kneeling in my pew, I wanted answers. I wanted him. I did have to let go to move on. Now I can say at age 25 I chose wisely, and have two daughters and a loyal, loving, fun relationship with my husband of 17 years.
    Heather Block

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    1. I'm hopeful that our kids will be spared some of our pain and drama. On the other hand, sometimes love means being willing to embrace pain for the good of the other.

      I'm so thankful for your amazing fam. ...and I may have to dig out that song...

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