Five great questions of life: Life * Love * Learning * Labor * Leadership
Eagles Take You Up. Turkeys Take You Down.
By Evan Nehring
One of the best nights I ever had as a youth pastor was Eagles and Turkeys Night. I asked a few of my adult youth leaders to tell about a turkey in their life (a friend who brought them down) and an eagle in their life (a friend who helped them soar). The results were stunning.
One by one the youth leaders walked to the front, grabbed the mic, and shared deeply personal stories of how their lives had been dragged up and down by friends they had chosen. The most memorable was my drummer buddy. He had served in the military but he couldn’t hold back the tears as he described how the woman who would become his wife had loved him, guided him and helped him become a godly husband, father and friend.
High schoolers, junior highers and college-agers were completely engaged in the discussion as the real-life drama of the youth leaders came to life. Eagles take you up. Turkeys take you down. Simple.
Friends will influence what you chose as your spiritual center. It’s almost impossible to be devoted to core values that no one close to you cares about. If your closest friends spend 80% of their free time hopping bars, it’ll be tough for you to be a devoted faith and family person with Jesus at your center.
Friends will influence how you handle relationships. If your pals are big talkers with “swing for the fences” dating mentalities, good luck maintaining respectful relationships.
Friends will influence where you go to school, how devoted you are to your classes and how you see the world. If you choose to be with hard working, optimistic friends, you’re unlikely to fail your classes and walk around under a cloud of perceived victimization.
Friends will influence your career path. Will you be a risk-taker, creative solver, faithful laborer and fulfilled project-completer? It’s likely that you are resonating with those types of people in your workplace and community.
Friends will influence how high you rise in leadership, accomplishment and service. If you surround yourself with pleasure seekers, you’re unlikely to become a world-changer.
Run with the turkeys or soar with the eagles.
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