Five great questions of life: Life * Love * Learning * Labor * Leadership
Dating Laura - Aligned for Ministry
By Evan Nehring
Laura and I toured together for a year in One Accord, a band put together at North Central Bible College. We had a great group; nine of us. We went through auditions and selection at the end of the prior school year and then spent the fall semester preparing for tour. We rehearsed in a corner storage room behind the chapel. It wasn’t very big, but we were able to set up and leave everything in place for a few months. It was beyond exciting. We were going on tour!
It was February, just before my 21st birthday. In the church basement where we prepared for the evening service there was an old upright piano; the kind you usually find in church basements. Music majors like finding pianos. Laura sat down and began to play. I recognized the intro and couldn’t resist singing Lionel Richie’s first lines:
My love, there’s only you in my lifeLaura kept playing and followed along like Diana Ross:
The only thing that’s right
My first love, you’re every breath that I takeThen the duet Billboard named the greatest song duet of all time…
You’re every step I make
And I (I-I-I-I-I), I want to share all my love with you
No one else will do…
And your eyes (your eyes, your eyes)
They tell me how much you care
Ooh yes, you will always be
My endless love
It wasn’t endless, but it definitely didn’t end that night. We found some opportunities to talk long and deep about a future full of loving God, loving people, and loving each other. Youth ministry, music ministry, children’s ministry: we could see the meshing of the gifts.
It got pretty serious. After tour was over we met each others’ families. We looked at rings. We talked about dates. And then things just started to turn blah. Maybe the whole thing was more about lining ourselves up for a church staff than it ever was about relationship.
We had this really interesting talk about not really feeling like the relationship was meant to be. It started out very cautious and concerned about one another’s feelings, but it turned out that we were both relieved to find out the other felt the same. By the end of the conversation she discovered that I was interested in someone else and I discovered that she liked my roomie! I still consider “setting them up” one of my life’s greatest accomplishments.
It was still hard. Really hard sometimes. But there was Martha…
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